When The World Feels Uncertain

Lately, the world feels full of uncertainty—and with it, a sense of unease. In times like this, I find comfort in the ancient practice of “not knowing.” Here’s an excerpt from Meditation Illuminated: Simple Ways to Manage Your Busy Mind that explores this concept, using the story of a woman caught in a blizzard. The ideas are relevant to many situations, especially the shifting “weather systems” inherent in daily life.

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The Practice of Not Knowing

“Not knowing is most intimate” is an important concept in meditation practice. Intimacy in this sense means the direct awareness that brings you closer to the immediacy of the present moment. By not imagining outcomes based on fears, judgments, memories, and the like, you can remain open and present to what is. 

Consider the following scenario: A woman takes a taxi to the airport in near-blizzard conditions. Snow falls steadily, and cars spin out of control, yet she remains in a space of “not knowing” and remains calm about what will happen next. Will the car spin out? Will they get into an accident? Will she miss her flight? As each anxious thought begins to arise, she reminds herself that she doesn’t know, and the thought loses its power. 

She only knows for certain that snow is falling and accumulating, and drivers are struggling with poor road conditions. She finds it freeing to notice her stories without getting lost in them—and instead, live in the immediacy of the present moment. 

She simply notices when she wants to make an assumption about the future, and then she reminds herself that she doesn’t know. If you could listen to her thoughts, you might hear: Will I get to the airport? I don’t know. Will the weather be okay to fly? I don’t know. 

Being comfortable with not knowing can bring enormous freedom and with it, awareness of the moment as it really is. It can take courage to let go of  your “stuff” and the illusion of control—and instead, move into a space where you simply don’t know.

Spiritual teacher and author Harold Kushner also spoke of moving into the unknown when asked what happens after we die. He said he couldn’t possibly describe what happens next—if he did know what was next, it would be like a child who wasn’t born yet “knowing that in ten months from now she would be wearing red sneakers and watching television.” 

We simply don’t know what the future holds. Each breath is a new beginning and a new ending. Staying in the immediacy of the present moment can be challenging, but it can be realized with practice. Sometimes the practice is simply one of remembering to focus on just this next breath. And then the next one. And so on.

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De-stressing During the Holidays

No time to meditate? If you are coming upon the busy holiday season, and you can’t imagine adding one more thing to your lengthy “to do” list, no problem! Simply by keeping your awareness in the present moment, instead of caught up in thoughts about the past or the future, you can relieve stress. You don’t need to sit in a quiet place with your eyes closed to meditate. You can practice anytime simply by noticing what you experience through your five senses.

Shopping: Notice what you hear in the store, including the sounds of shoppers, salespeople, music and even holiday volunteers, ringing their bells for charity outside the store’s entrance.

Holiday gatherings: See if you can be fully present to those you interact with, listening to them fully without your mind wandering to past and future events.

Unwrapping presents: Notice the color or pattern of the wrapping, how tightly or loosely it is wrapped and the sound it makes as you tear the paper.

Holiday baking: See if you can take your time baking, being fully present with your five senses, noticing sounds, smells, tastes, textures, colors and shapes.

Holiday rituals: See if you can be fully present to any holiday rituals you and your family may have, taking your time with them, and fully experiencing their meaning.

Lighting holiday candles: Notice how long it takes the wick of the candle to light. Notice the color and shape of the flame and any heat emanating from it.

Mindfulness is about coming into the present moment with full awareness. If you find yourself getting caught up in regrets about the past or worries about the future, see if you can gently bring your awareness to what you are experiencing in the here and now. Consider giving yourself a wonderful present this holiday season: the gift of presence.

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